How often do you judge
others? Be honest, and I will too…
pretty often. In fact, the world
we’re brought up in today almost encourages judgment. Everyone has an opinion about someone’s style, work ethic,
beliefs, lifestyle, and choices.
But what are these judgments
really saying? Nothing. Nothing at all really because there are
just opinions and opinions are not facts.
“When you judge others, you do no define them, you define yourself as
someone who needs to judge (Dr. Wayne Dyer).” When I read this a light bulb instantly went off! Who am I to judge anyone? I’m just as flawed as the next person
trying to figure out this life on earth.
And it’s true, judgment on a person does not change who they are… mostly
it just separates you from ever having a connection to them. Who knows what kinds of amazing relationships
I could be blocking by keeping people away with judgment. Everyone has the choice to live their
life in the way they see fit and it’s not our place to say whether that is
right or wrong.
But this also applies to judgment
passed on us from others. Again,
we can’t control what others think, feel, or put on us. However, we can control the way we
respond and receive feedback.
Ultimately, if you feel you’re being judged you have to know deep down
that what they’re saying really doesn’t matter. So many people constantly try to dictate where you life
should go, what you should be doing, how you should be doing it, and so
on. But only you know what’s best
for you. Only you have the guide
of your emotions telling you whether or not you’re headed in the right
direction. And if you feel good
then that’s all that matters.
Nothing else matters but feeling good- today- not tomorrow… right
now! When people throw judgment
into your field you have to view them as opinions and that’s all.
I’ve been thinking about
why I judge people and the answer is simple… to feed my own ego. It almost always comes down to the
ego. You feel better when you “think”
you are above someone. But do you really feel better at the end of the
day or does your ego? Because they are two separate entities. Your ego masks everything true about
you by seeking the approval of others and weighing your worth on accomplishments,
accolades, and achievements. Your
ego must prove to everyone else how important you are… trust me, I know all
about the ego. What about proving
to yourself how important you are?
Well, if we can make others feel less about themselves then surely we
will feel more powerful, right?!
Of course, most people don’t consciously think this way but
subconsciously that is what we’re really doing.
You see, our ego is
counterintuitive because feeding it actually makes you starved like an insatiable
thirst that can’t be quenched. Our ego- always without a doubt- separates us
from love, abundance, and self-respect.
There’s no fulfillment to filling your ego, just constant ravenous
hunger. When you have self-respect
for yourself you don’t need an ego that always has to win because you have
already won. You don’t need to
seek the approval of others because you approve of yourself. You know that the Universe, which we
are all connected to, loves you no matter what. You aren’t hungry… you’re full.
That’s why when we judge
ourselves and others we are basically saying, “Everything is WRONG in the
world! God is wrong!” But is it? Or is that just how we choose to perceive it? Perception is
everything… would it be so terrible to perceive everyone like they are capable
of great feats. Imagine if
everyone was instilled with this belief, with this mindset, or we saw the infinite
possibilities in everyone.
Envision others treating you this way and you can feel how this effect
would be contagious. Spread
encouragement, hope, and joy and that’s what you’ll receive back in your life
because you know that judgment is worthless.
This is something I know I
definitely need to work on but by being consciously aware of my judgments
towards others I’m slowly chipping away at my own ego. I want to see the best in everyone, to
encourage people’s dreams, motivations, and desires. In the end, that’s all that matters. And when I’m living in a state of non-judgment
I have an easier time of not letting judgment affect my own life.
Have you felt judged
recently? Or passed the judgment
unknowingly? I’d love to hear in
the comments.
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“How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove that splinter
from your eye,’ while the wooden beam is in your eye?” – Matthew
